However, you can't seem to simply point out what went wrong in this causal mature hookup. Because you don't know what to do next, you are hung there. Maybe you can find the following 4 reasons to explain why it is time to leave end the friends with benefits relationship.
1. You are no longer happy in this relationship
At first everything was warm, but now the enthusiasm and enthusiasm have faded. It seems that the exciting fun of every weekend has become an ordinary weekly routine. You almost feel obliged to be a responsible adult, and you should see her at any time. Because that is what you all agree on. This is strange because it is ironic. Didn't you start this fwb dating from the beginning? You get into the FWB because you want excitement and fun.
You did not expect it to evolve into habitual routine. Just like what other adult friend finders have in a serious relationship or marriage. This mature hookup life is just to allow nsa finders to claim that they have a better hookup life. You can't help but notice that your situation now looks like that. If it becomes so boring and no longer interesting, then it is a sign for you to leave this affair dating.
2. It obscures your thoughts and affects your life
When you know this adult affair dating all in your head, it has reached an unhealthy state of obsession. For example, you had a big fight with each other and dumped you. You don't seem to be working properly, let alone doing anything productive at work. She planted a seed in your mind and joked that her sexual fantasies were threesome and you just couldn't help thinking about a few sleepless nights. You scold yourself, wondering if you are not good enough to satisfy her.
For more than half of your working time, you can't help thinking about her, you can't help wondering who she is doing, you send her millions of spam messages every day, even if you know that these messages will be deleted. In short, if your FWB relationship is the cause of many dramatic events and heartaches in your life, you are finished and you should leave immediately. A good friends with benefits relationship should be a casual, easy and fun one. No one is tortured by so much anxiety, sadness, and pain that it drains your mind.
At this time, you may need to give fwb partner some time and space to think. Especially because you told him about it, it might surprise him and hurt his feelings. By that time, he may still be interested in this relationship, or he may have hope that this relationship will develop into other relationships.